When a kid gets abused why do they think its their fault?
Friday, January 27th, 2012 at
7:01 pm
My friend gets beat everyday by his dad and he’s 17 years old, he sometimes tells me he feels like it’s his fault when I know it’s not, cuz he does nothing wrong at all. He leaves his house cuz it’s so bad he doesn’t want to be there. And it’s shocking to me his mother has no idea. But why does he feel as if it’s hit fault?
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Lately I’ve realized that my mom is emotionally abusive to me and my siblings and she tells us everything is our fault. So I guess when you’re told everyday that everything wrong or bad that happens is because of you you start to believe it, even though you know it’s not actually true. If that makes sense.
Also, my stepfather used to physically abuse my stepbrother when he was younger and it’s the same thing, they’re blaming you for all of their problems and it makes you think it’s your fault. So whenever my stepbrother got hit or something he would automatically start blaming himself in thinking that he did something wrong.
Your friend is getting beatin and he doesn’t know why. His brain is trying to figure out why so that he can fix whatever is wrong. Since there is no reason the brain tells him that he is doing something wrong but he isn’t. The human brain will always try to make sense of something so he blames himself even though it’s not his fault.
Because abusers use lies and tricks the whole time……..
People/parents tear you down to build themselves up- Think about this for awhile. Words are not said to help you at all. Its only a trick to make abusers/parents feel good. When people are sick they say mean things to feel better. This goes for people at school as well.
Abusers use put downs, ignoring or hitting. You are tricked and thats why you feel bad. Abusers lie and have lies mixed with past truths other times. They have problems so its not your fault. Hurting people hurt others and were abused themselves. You are being abused.
Divorce, father gone, abuse, ignoring can make children grow up with all types of so called "Mental Problems" or turn them into abusers. Know mean people often are calling you names of mental disorders to abuse you. The "Chemical Imbalance" claim is false. It has been thoroughly discredited by researchers. There is No test for imbalances..-Quakery exposed. " Its total fraud" — Dr. Fred Baughman Neurologist.
Live away from all abusers verbal or physical and never go back. Dont speak to them. They will never change unless forced.
Remember- Read 20 sites daily on Emotional Abuse- also Tell your teacher.
God wants you to Forgive- which does not require talking to them again- Call Child Protective Services transitional housing to age 21.
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